As I am getting closer to the end of my pregnancy, I’ve been asked a few times now if I’m ready to “get my body back.” This concept always makes me curious. Back from what? Sure, I am ready to hold my baby and not have him sucking all my energy and nutrients like the cute little parasite that he is. But you know as well as I do that’s not the “back” that they mean.
They mean, when I am going to lose the baby weight. When I am going to get back into the shape I was before I was pregnant.
Simple answer: never.
What body would that be exactly? The body before this baby? Well, it’s already been changed by 2 other tiny people. Before I ever had a baby at all?
|When I was 17|
That’s cute. Really, society, that’s adorable. Because that body up there is gone. It’s never coming back. I’ll never be a punk 17 year old girl again. Even when I get back down to that weight, I will never, ever have that body back.
I have given birth almost 3 times. Literally pushed 2 lives into this world and sustained them by milk I made. There is no way on earth my body didn’t change from that. It did. I will never have pre-pregnancy boobs again, that ship has sailed. Good-bye wireless bras, never again will I feel your comfort.
Here’s the thing that Society and The Media don’t understand. Pre-pregnancy bodies are just that. PRE-pregnancy. As in before. Now all the mothers of the world are POST-pregnancy and while we can diet and exercise until we lose our minds and the weight, we will never look the same again.
And that should be okay. Maybe one day, it will be.